
What if you made plans with friend A, but then friend B came through with tickets to see your favorite band? What if you had a friend that your other friends wanted to exclude from a group trip to the movies? What if you accidentally revealed a friendโs secret and worried theyโd hate you if you confessed?
Longtime philosophy professor and Ethics Bowl supporter Dr. Jana Mohr Lone recently released a new illustrated book series, What Would You Do? Moral Dilemmas for Kids, and addresses these questions and more in her beautifully illustrated title on Friendship. I ordered a copy on Amazon and was quickly reminded how relationship lessons first experienced in childhood extend across our lifespans. Just as some friends made more of a point to attend our birthday parties, some friends make more of a point to honor our special projects. Just as some friends took up for us on the playground, some friends are more outspoken allies in the office and on social media. And just as then, some of our present day friends are more deserving of the title, as well as the affection and loyalty that come with it. These are the sorts of realizations good interpersonal Ethics Bowl cases bring to the surface, but with Loneโs guided questions and the playful art, the insights come even more effortlessly, and regardless of the readerโs age.
Each section begins with a scenario, followed by carefully articulated prompts, and then finally some possible paths a thoughtful person could take. If youโre a team captain choosing basketball players, should you try to stack your team with the best athletes? Or should you honor your buddy who couldnโt hit a layup to save his life, but who loves hoops so much that he legally changed his name to Jordan? If you picked him first, he’d be thrilled, but your team would likely loseโฆ and your motives would likely be obvious. So maybe it would be better to simply ensure heโs not picked last? However, as Lone invites the reader to consider, your decisionโs impact on non-friendsโ feelings is relevant, too. (Perhaps this is a scenario with wisdom older readers might relate back to assigning responsibilities within the family, classroom, or workplace?)
โItโs not easy to balance your feelings for your friend and your role as team captain. You donโt want to make your friend feel bad. But you also wonder if choosing team members based on friendship will affect the other playersโ feelings.โ

In addition to the pictures here, you can peek inside on the bookโs Amazon page and see for yourself how you might work this entry on friendship into a class assignment or as a gift to a parent or child you love. And as Lone says in the closing paragraphs in her notes for parents and teachers, the goal isnโt so much to dictate how kids should feel or even what they should do. But to simply ensure theyโre thinking and feeling, and doing so in an earnest, honest way.
โIt is useful for children to be able to talk about their responses to the kinds of scenarios described in this book, and to learn strategies for evaluating the right ting to do in various circumstances. The goal is not necessarily to find that one right answer, but to be able to think through the issue and arrive at a reasoned decisionโฆ Ultimately, we want children to become reflective and sensitive, ethical adults.โ
And itโs this goal of developing โreflective and sensitive, ethical adultsโ that Lone has been achieving for many years as a leader within the philosophy for children movement, which we in the Ethics Bowl community certainly share. Thank you for the excellent book, Jana!
Other books in Mohr Loneโs What Would You Do? Moral Dilemmas for Kids Series include titles on:



